1. What is this “G&G” organization: a support group, social group, a professional association or a club?
Guys And Girls are none of the above, and at the same time we are all of the above.
Formal “support groups” recommend/suggest/require that group members not have one-on-one relationships with other members of the group. Guys And Girls encourages individual to have one-on-one relationships; these heterosexual friendships can be male-female, male-male, or female-female.
An HIV infection is widely known as knowledge based condition. The more you know about HIV the better you are able to handle the individual characteristics of an HIV infection; as well as the very individual responses to HIV treatment. Most HIV “topics” are best discussed among HIV peers.
We are a social group because we aim to do fun social things with each other. We are a club because we all share one thing; an HIV infection. None of us walk around in our daily lives with a sign around our necks stating our HIV status, with hopes of finding others like ourselves.
2. What G&G is not.
Please know G&G is not a charitable organization, a health service agency, or least of all a dating service! Nor is G&G connected to any non-profit or for profit corporate entity. G&G is a private club, run by HIV+ people, exclusively for HIV+ people; looking to meet others like themselves. This club/initiative/association/network is supported solely by those most involved with G&G. There are no subsidies available or provided to anyone involved with G&G. Every member pays for any event they choose to attend; G&G cannot and does not sponsor anyone. Everyone performing any organization function for G&G, does so on a voluntary basis.
3. I am a gay male, what do you offer me?
Guys And Girls has a sibling organization called Nothing But Guys (NBG). They do exactly what Guys And Girls does but they do it for HIV positive gay men. They have been doing this since 1998, and NBG can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.
4. Why don’t you offer more activities on weekends?
At one point in our history since 1995 we offered primarily weekend events. More recently we have found that weekend events don’t draw as well as weekday events. Our advice is that you participate and support G&G events whenever you see an event that even possibly fits your busy schedule.
Additionally, in NYC it is very difficult to find an interesting, quality, and moderately priced venue, and one that affords reasonable space to mix and mingle; we require unique high standards of excellence in spaces that we use. However, we welcome and encourage your suggestions on weekend venues that you feel we should consider.
5. What can I do to help Guys And Girls?
Tell a health care provider about G&G, refer a friend, and post a link to this site anywhere you think an HIV+ person might find the link. The greatest challenge G&G faces is finding other HIV+ people like us. Not only would you be helping this group grow, you are also helping another person with HIV find people like themselves. It is also good public health; specifically limiting the potential spread of HIV to those uninfected by HIV.
6. What is the age range of the group?
Interestingly, the age range of the group pretty much follows the demographics of the virus itself. However, if you want us to say the numbers we would estimate the range is early 20’s to around 60; with the thick of the group in the 30 to 50 range.
7. What do people From Guys And Girls Look like?
They look just like you or I. We would have to take thousands of photographs to properly reflect all the members of Guys And Girls.